Some songs tell you a story about heartbreak. Others make you feel it. Intermittent Love from Exzenya, does both and then has the audacity to pull up a whiteboard and explain exactly how the heartbreak happened, complete with psychological terminology. It’s a soul-infused pop/R&B track built not just on emotion, but on the cold, clinical mechanics of human attachment. Specifically, something called intermittent reinforcement and intermittent punishment. That’s where love isn’t a steady, reliable presence, but a chaotic system of unpredictable rewards and punishments that somehow keeps you coming back. Imagine your favourite slot machine, but the jackpot is affection, and losing means emotional devastation.
The first thing you notice is how dark the production feels. Not “sad ballad” dark; more like the kind of darkness you get when you’ve been underwater too long and you’re not entirely sure which way is up. There’s a slow, steady pulse, giving the song a sense of inevitability, like it’s not rushing to the chorus because it already knows you’re not going anywhere.
Exzenya’s lead vocal is arresting. It’s warm enough to feel intimate, yet carrying a quiet edge that makes you wonder if you should trust it. And then there are the background vocals: high, pure, and intentionally siren-like. The moments of connection feel like salvation, so you ignore the rocks waiting beneath the surface. In the song, this plays out through arrangement choices; melodies that shimmer for a second before vanishing, harmonies that seem to hold you in place while the rest of the instrumentation subtly pulls away.
It’s rare for a pop track to commit this hard to its concept without overexplaining it. The psychology is there for anyone who wants to dig; the behavioural science that shows why inconsistent affection creates such unshakable bonds, but you don’t need to know the term “variable-ratio schedule” to feel the trap closing. You just have to listen.
By blending that precision with mythological weight, Exzenya turns Intermittent Love into something more than just a breakup song. It’s a map of a very specific emotional terrain; one where beauty and danger share the same address. And like any good map, it makes you curious enough to explore… even if you already suspect it ends somewhere you’d rather not go.
In the end, it’s not about whether you recognize the behavioural psychology at work, or catch every lyrical reference. The song’s real trick is making you feel the cycle: the rush, the drop, the hope, the dread. And once you’ve felt it, good luck breaking free.
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